We are human. Most, if not all of us crave true connection, whether we want to admit it or not. However, times have changed. Social media allows us to be so connected that we no longer need to pick up the phone to call a friend. And who meets more in person to start a romantic relationship?
Online dating is here to stay, whether we like it or not. Since 1995 with Match.com you were able to research the interest of a potential partner from the comfort of your own home.
Things have certainly evolved since then and today there are dozens of dating apps. The most popular (in my opinion) are Tinder and Bumble, but there are plenty of others to try and see if you get better results for finding the perfect match.
But many people have started to express their dissatisfaction with the apps and the quality of the connections they provide. After all, it’s hard to distinguish between someone looking for a relationship or just wanting something casual.
A growing number of millennials are also part of this trend, with multiple studies showing that casual culture and online dating are the most hateful, which have become synonymous. They want stability and a relationship based on trust and loyalty. Substance instead of scans.
One solution that has been presented is what if people called their match first? However, this doesn’t always work because some people don’t want to be vulnerable and be the first to call.
In one post, a woman who asked to speak anonymously to talk about her exes said she sometimes “screens” potential dates with a call. She tried several times and once avoided a date with a guy who was smart on Tinder but “aggressive” on the phone.“I’m so glad I didn’t waste an evening and makeup talking to her in real life.”
In the new world of dating, no one meets in person anymore. Studies have shown that clients in their 40s and older feel comfortable with a call before the first date. Those in their thirties and under are “totally scared of it”.
Men are afraid to approach women for fear of being too aggressive or too forward. “In turn, women have been conditioned to be surprised and almost confused or put off when a guy makes a move to say hello in a bar.”
We have so little time in this life and many of us now spend a good chunk of that time texting someone we’ve never even met.
God forbid to say that you develop feelings for this person. It can become a waste of time and effort if you don’t meet the object of your affection in person. Although it takes courage, I’ve heard far too many friends lament the number of times they’ve been caught out or ghosted by someone who “just didn’t muster the courage to meet them face to face.” face to face”.
That’s not to say you can’t find a relationship with apps. I’ve heard my share of success stories. One of my best friends is now in a happy relationship, but that was after years on the app and many bad matches. But I’ve heard a lot more horror stories than happy endings.
I’m curious to see if things change in the future, because I absolutely wish it became a better way to find a real connection that ends up being another nothing.